The First Bonds of Friendship: The Beginning of Social Relationships in Early Childhood
In the early childhood stage, every look, every gesture and every approach towards another person holds profound meaning. At Mountain Peak Montessori School, we understand that early social relationships do not arise through force, but are born from daily coexistence, respect for individual rhythms, and a prepared environment that encourages meaningful encounters with others.
Although very young children do not yet establish friendships as we understand them in adulthood, they do begin to build their first social bonds, which are essential for their emotional and social development.
How Do Early Social Relationships Emerge?
During the first years of life, children gradually move from a more individual form of exploration towards a natural curiosity about others. They observe, imitate, approach one another, and share spaces and materials. These early interactions form the foundation of future socialisation.
The Role of the Prepared Environment
The prepared environment plays a key role in the development of healthy social relationships. Orderly, calm spaces adapted to the child’s needs encourage respectful and meaningful interactions.
Individual materials foster waiting and respect for turn-taking.
Shared spaces invite observation and collaboration.
Clear routines provide security and support harmonious coexistence.
When a child feels secure, they are able to open themselves to others with confidence.
Early “Friendships” in the First Years
At an early age, friendship is expressed in simple yet deeply valuable ways:
Sitting close to another child on a regular basis.
Smiling at or looking at one another with interest.
Offering or exchanging an object.
Imitating actions or play.
These gestures, though brief, are genuine social experiences that help the child recognise others as part of their environment.
The Role of the Adult: Accompanying Without Intervening
The adult acts as a guide and observer. Their role is not to direct relationships, but to accompany and model respectful behaviour:
Naming emotions: “I can see that you enjoy being close to your friend.”
Offering clear and calm limits when necessary.
Supporting the peaceful resolution of minor conflicts.
Respecting each child’s individual timing.
In this way, children learn to relate to others through empathy and mutual respect.
Early social relationships are seeds that, when nurtured with care and respect, will grow throughout life. At Mountain Peak Montessori School, we believe that friendship begins with the freedom to be oneself in the presence of others, within an environment that welcomes, supports and trusts in each child’s capabilities.
Because every small shared gesture is the beginning of a meaningful bond.